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New Resolutions. New Failures. New You.

I have two simple questions for you. What’s your New Year’s Resolution? Did you fail?

We are already halfway through March, and the gym’s starting to drop down to the normal amount of everyday people, some people I know are still spending “too much time at work”, and I even know a few people who didn’t start their New Year’s Resolution at all. And you know what? That’s okay.

Since about mid-December, I’ve asked about 50 people the same question. What’s your New Year’s Resolution? I got a great mixed batch of responses. Some people had big plans to get healthy again, others wanted to advance their career more, and some people flat out didn’t like making resolutions.

Why People Don’t Like Resolutions

One thing I found interesting was how many people truly don’t like making resolutions.

Although I respect everyone’s opinion, I can’t relate to people who don’t make resolutions. Resolutions give me something to strive for. It’s something new. And honestly, it’s fun for me. Nothing more, nothing less. I was baffled when people balked at the idea of making “resolutions for themselves”.

I’ve came to the most logical, simple conclusion I can, why people don’t like resolutions. People don’t like resolutions because they are scared to fail. Resolutions are hard to keep, I get it. To be honest, I rarely ever keep the resolutions I make for myself at the beginning of each year. I fail all the time. And you know what? I’m okay with that.

So instead of failing, people would rather not try. No matter how big or how small. It’s safer not to make resolutions because people fear the feeling we all are trained to dread, which is the feeling of “failure”. In order to grow, we have to “want more”, in order to actually “get more”, we have to have a goal/objective/resolution to “strive for”, and before we actually achieve whatever that “something is”, more likely than not, we are going to fail. And the odds are, when you fail, you will survive.

Now, let’s deprogram…

Redefining Success

When you create a goal, and you fail at that goal, I believe our natural gut feeling is “let down”. We have been programmed for years to be scared of let down, to avoid failure, and to run away from potential mistakes. We start learning to fear all this in elementary school, and that fear grows the older we get.

How do we change this fearful way of thinking? We have to redefine success. Success shouldn’t be about “you made it without failing”. Success should mirror perseverance.

Here is my pattern and steps for success “now”.

  1. Taking initiative

  2. Following through

  3. Not being scared to fail

  4. Failing

  5. Getting back up to complete my initiative

  6. Success

It’s that simple. I have redefined my success. Therefore, I have new ways to try and achieve the feeling of success. Resolutions provide a fun way to do that.


Start Over. Try Again.

It’s basically February. And I can tell you, I’ve failed my New Year’s Resolution. My resolution is to write 10 ideas a day. I want to work my “idea muscle” more. We are officially 26 days into January and I’ve failed. There are days I have been “too busy” to write ten new ideas, and there are days I’ve just flat out forgot. No excuses, it’s just the truth.

Hell, I didn’t even write 10 ideas down today. But the key is, I’m not going to feel bad about it, and just quit. I’ll get start over again, right now. My resolutions never stop, and neither should yours.

Hows your New Year’s Resolution going?

My 10 Daily Ideas and Thoughts for 01/26/2016

  1. Write more. Don’t think. Just write.
  2. Become a better problem solver. Don’t shy away from problems.
  3. Speak up more. Be heard. Be appropriate.
  4. Have better follow through.
  5. Have better time management. Use my calendar more effectively.
  6. Make more tasks lists and actually use them.
  7. Call my Mother and Grandmother more often.
  8. Be a better peer and friend. How? Do more, invest more.
  9. Don’t compare myself to others. Create my own impact on people.
  10. Continue these lists. Don’t stop, even when I forget. Keep going.

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